Guilt Is Not a Spiritual Gift

Guilt is not a spiritual gift quote atthepicketfence.com

*You may have read this post before. You may not have. But either way I decided to unearth it and publish it again. Because sometimes we just need a reminder, right?* I have this friend. I'll call her "Rulie". If you are apart of our Sunday school class at church and you've had a baby (or 4), lost a loved one, been through surgery, moved into a new home, flushed a goldfish down the toilet or experienced any other assorted traumatic life experience and the "bring you a meal" sign-up sheet goes … [Read more...]

The Big Fork

kids walking

A silent war has been waged in our home for awhile now. Every day I make dinner. (For some strange reason my family expects it every night. Go figure!) And every day I ask one of my kiddos to set the table. Many nights, in order to keep them out of the kitchen at the most critical moment when everything is getting ready to be served up, I put the placemats, silverware and napkins on the edge of the kitchen island so they can simply grab them and start setting the table. … [Read more...]

My I Should Summer Take 2

sunshine

Sometimes I need reminders. And sometimes those reminders come in the form of my own words (weird, right?). And because today is the last day of school for my kiddos AND because it's also my son's 12 birthday (sniff...sniff), I'm giving myself this reminder. Maybe you could use it too.  My I Should Summer I do it to myself every year. The month of May rolls around and I know that school will be out in a few weeks and we're going to have days filled with nothing but time, time and more time. … [Read more...]

Build Up Sweet Friends, Build Up

roses and snowballs

Pursuing your dreams can be a funny thing. It brings up so many different emotions. We're putting ourselves out there. Setting goals, taking risks, praying, hoping, willing those dreams to come true. And often what happens as we lay ourselves bare in the pursuit of our dreams is that suddenly we've created extra space for insecurity to seep in. As if we all needed more of that right? Recently I was deeply impacted by someone else's insecurity. By their inability to 'light my … [Read more...]

The Path

I made him promise to not go too fast.  I made him promise to stay where it was safe.  Not too high (I’m terrified of heights..like pass out and die of fear..afraid of heights) no steep hills, no crazy detours…you get the idea. And he said, “I promise I’ll watch out for you.”  So we headed off. Out on our four wheeling trip into the desert. … [Read more...]

Crystal Glasses and Paper Napkins

cherry blossom centerpiece atthepicketfence.com

I've always been very hard on myself. The whole idea of extending grace to others is a far easier concept for me to grasp than extending it to myself. And for years, one of the ways this manifested in my life was in a constant striving for perfection. If I do all of the 'right' things and make all of the 'right' choices then everything in my life will be 'right'...right? ;-) Of course, even as I type out those words I realize once again how absolutely ridiculous that sounds. Because, … [Read more...]

It’s Not You, It’s Me

Insecurity quote

We're snuggled into the covers, talking and giggling in those precious minutes before I kiss her goodnight. We make shadow puppets on the wall and she begs me to sing Jesus Loves Me in my best opera voice. I'm not going to lie folks, it's epic. You'll have to hear it sometime. She thinks that she is stalling bedtime. But I know the truth. These are treasured moments, sacred and precious. These are the moments when she will confide in me about her day. When she'll laugh hysterically … [Read more...]

Good Friday Doesn’t Feel Good

When Good Friday Does't Feel So Good

Every year I find myself compelled to go. I know it will probably feel painful and even a bit dark. I know I will once again sit in a pew with tears streaming down my face as I recognize how unworthy I am of being treated as someone of worth. To be valued, treasured, sacrificed for. If this is Good Friday, why doesn't it feel so “good”? … [Read more...]

Making Friends With My Problems

I read the words over and over, certain I had misunderstood or that in my just awakened, pre-caffeinated state I had to be reading them incorrectly. But there was no mistake about it. There they were. Right there in black and white. Words which sounded so incredibly strange to me and frankly words which I wasn't particularly thrilled to be reading that morning. … [Read more...]

Clinging to Truth in the Pain

God's truths quote atthepicketfence.com

I went to bed with her on my mind. I woke up with her on my mind. I sent her a text as soon as I got out of bed to tell her that I was praying for her...praying hard. Praying that during their appointment that morning, they would hear the heartbeat. … [Read more...]