A few years ago, in a blog post about fall decor, I casually mentioned that every October I set out a pair of paper bag pumpkins (say that five times fast!) crafted by my children when they were each in kindergarten, respectively.
In one of the comments left for me, a curious member of our community here told me that she would love to actually see those paper bag pumpkins. I think she might have felt, like so many of us do, that while we enjoy all of the photos of beautiful home decor, there tends to be a lack of reality. In fact, I had this confirmed to me when I shared my fall tour with you recently and everyone overwhelmingly declared that they would welcome a little less staging and a lot more real-life.
I’ve wanted to share those paper bag pumpkins with you ever since then. But, I always talked myself out of it. I mean, why would anyone but me care about them? And then I began to think about why I take those paper bag pumpkins out every year and what they mean to me.
Normally, I put them in our laundry room on the long counter which doubles as a dropping zone for homework and mail and socks. (what is it with socks?!)
I put those paper bag pumpkins there because it’s the room we are in and out of multiple times a day since it leads to the garage and we are perpetually shuttling everyone around. And each time I see them with their pipe cleaner stems and their crooked smiles carefully drawn on by little hands, I can’t help but think that they are perhaps the most beautiful of all my fall decor.
Last week we had the incredible privilege of traveling to Maui to celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary. We took our kids with us because we are suckers and really wanted them to enjoy the island with us. Every morning Robb and I would drink our coffee out on the balcony with a perfect view of the ocean. Below us was a little walkway that wound through the resort and, without fail, each day we would see parents chasing toddlers. The time difference had everyone up very early in the morning and it wouldn’t be unusual to see them all running around at 6am.
One morning we noticed a little boy pushing his toy truck back and forth along the path, his blonde hair blowing in the breeze. He reminded us so much of our son at that age that it was like getting a glimpse at our past. And it dawned on me just what it was I was feeling so intensely these days.
When my kids were little I definitely had a sense of how quickly the time was passing but it always seemed like there was still lots of time left. The days, months and years stretched out before me while I was having to be so very much in the moment with my little ones.
Now, in this season, I’m experiencing that bittersweet sense of not only truly knowing that time is going by quickly but also this deep awareness of how little of it there is left. No longer do I see it stretching before me like some kind of yellow brick road meandering along until it meets the horizon.
So, I do things like putting out paper bag pumpkins every year.
Because sometimes the tangible items serve as the beginning of the intangible thread which connects us to the past, the present and the future.
And even though they might not admit it, I think seeing those pumpkins as they walk through the door each day provides the same sense of continuity and security to my kids as it does to me. A little glimpse of their childhood to remind them that while all of the world around them seems crazy and chaotic, our home remains a place they can count on to be steady and to have some things that never change.
We need to see a little bit more of this in blog posts and on social media, don’t you think? The things that reflect our real lives. Not the lives that we shove into a closet or hide in the laundry room in order to take the prettiest picture. But the ones that allow for the sweet, homemade crafts to peacefully coexists with the elegant home decor.
Because it’s not the perfect lamp we found or the latest paint color we added to our walls which we will cherish the most. It’s those little reminders of the life we’ve lived. They remind us of the joys and the sorrows and all of the gloriously mundane days in between.
So hang up those popsicle stick ornaments on the Christmas tree, drink your coffee from the hand-painted mug you got for Mother’s Day that year, put your fanciest earrings in the little clay bowl crafted by tiny fingers and wrapped up in newspaper with all of the reverence of a sculptor and his masterpiece.
And I’ll be here putting out my paper bag pumpkins.
Such beautiful treasures! I love them!! Great crafting idea for children before Halloween. Thanks for sharing!
I LOVE THE PUMPKINS!!!!!!!!! i TOTALLY understand why you cherish them….. they would have a special place in my home also! I do not have children of my own; but i have been graced with ceramic items, drawings, and other craft projects through the years by my nieces and nephews….. and now THEIR children…. every once in awhile, i send a blessed old item back to its creator so he/she can show their kids what a labor of love looks like! it’s a gift everyone enjoys all over again……
So sweet and we’ll said! Thank you !
Wow, thanks for putting those elusive feelings into words- you are spot on! Now I know why it seems so right to be still using the ceramic cup my (now 33 year old) son made in first grade for my used Brillo pad and to have the red crayon colored wood heart that my husband made in second grade hanging in the living room!
I suddenly am aware my youngest is already 50 he has his own business, married a women with two little girl, designed and built a beautiful home and had it paid for by the time he moved in. This is the child the doctor wanted me to abort because “I was too old”. Thank you for bringing back the memories.
Loved your paper bag pumpkins! What a treasure you have. I have hung on to several such things our children & grandchildren have made so understand your sentiments exactly. Thanks so much for sharing.
Vanessa,
I have three paper bag pumpkins proudly displayed in our great room from my kids when they were in preschool. Those reminders of long ago days bring back so many memories!
Such a great post! Thank you! It made me smile! 🙂
I love this! Thank you so much for your beautifully written posts! I truly enjoy them. I have two boys, 17 and 20, and can certainly relate to looking back on those younger years and wondering where all that time went. And, as a kindergarten teacher, I might just use the cute craft idea as well!
I follow the blog, the Instagram and Facebook page of Larissa her pages are called “Prodigal Pieces” a woman with God in her heart and the proud mom of 6 children. Anyways ; she once said that the reason she decorates with a few children handmade things; is because: “if Jesus peeks through your window; would he be proud of what he sees”? Amen for both of you.
Love this post.. a reminder of how fast time passes.
I am seeing this now with my grandsons growing up so quickly. Treasure each moment.
Love this! I am a retired teacher, and my third-graders made these. We also made paper bag turkeys, reindeer, and decorative holders for Valentine cards. Sweet memories!
Thank you so much for sharing! My heart warmed even more while reading this – as our middle son (28yrs old) just got married two weeks ago ( first child to get married) And amazingly enough all the items all three of my kids have made when they were little stood out to me around the house. The ceramic painted heart that my hubby uses every day to set his spoon on when making coffee, the soap dish I still use daily. All the painted mugs all three kids made over the years sit in my office with all my special pens and markers………..and of course my paper bags pumkins! Mini Christmas wearths I put out by my door, other Halloween and Easter items………the list goes on………I know this new chapter of “adult kids” is in full swing and love everything that it brings……it still warms me to have all the beautiful memory triggers around our home to warm my heart af all the fun, laughter and craziness when they were little. Glad to know others cherish those special made with love items our littles made! ❤️
What an absolutely wonderful post, and thank you for recognizing that many of us enjoy the reality of everyday life. The pumpkins are precious
Smitten, with them and YOU!
Awww…thanks Valarie!
Love those pumpkins. And, I never saw any paper bag pumpkins in my life! I’m going to grab my grandchildren tomorrow and make some of these! Hopefully, I will be able to pass them on to them when they have their own homes! Thanks for the great idea. And yes, nothing says home to my adult children quite like when they see something they made or gave to me many years ago. Males in their 30’s and 40’s actually look for that and notice when it’s not around! 😉