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August 1, 2014

I Let Her Decorate Her Own Cake

Every day, all day long, we’re faced with choices.

What should I eat for breakfast? Should I have that second cup of coffee (the answer to that one is almost always YES!)? Are my legs hairy enough that other people will notice or can I get away with one more day of not shaving?

And if you’re a mom, you can just multiply those choices by a million!

Ariel cake1

Some choices are no-brainers. “Mom, may I dangle my Rapunzel doll from the landing? The prince is trying to climb her hair.”

Sure!

“Mom, may I dangle from the landing?”

NO!!!! 

There are the choices we make that seem so simple in the moment but it’s only later when we realize their full magnitude.

We think that its no biggie but we realize later that it was in fact a BIG biggie!

And then, there are those times when we are faced with a choice and we know, right then and there, that it is a pivotal moment.

Like on Tuesday when my daughter and I were baking her birthday cake. Auntie Heather was in town along with my niece and nephew and a family party was planned for the following night. She wanted to have a princess cake which was perfect since I still had a castle cake mold from the princess party she had a few years ago.

We pulled the cake out of the oven, let it cool and as I was gathering all of the decorating supplies she said to me,

“Mommy, may I decorate my cake all by myself?”

This was one of those moments. The ones where you fully realize the weight of the question.

And I was torn.

After years of carefully planning and executing themed birthday parties with cakes and cupcakes labored over and decorated to perfectly match the chosen theme, it went against every fiber of my being to even consider having her decorate it all by herself.

I had a pretty good idea of how this cake would end up looking. 😉

It wasn’t going to be Pinterest worthy or wind up providing the inspiration for other themed parties for little girls around the world.

And yet, there she sat looking at me with those big brown eyes which pleaded with me to grant this wish.

This was her last day as a 6 year old. And she’s only little once.

Suddenly, this seemingly weighty question became a no-brainer question.

“Of course you can decorate your own cake sweetie!”

And she did.

She went after it with gusto and when she was done working her magic that cake was perfect.

Until she placed the plastic Ariel doll with the bikini top right in the middle of it.

Ariel on top of cake

Then, well, then it was even more perfect!

I’m pretty sure it’s the most beautiful castle-Little Mermaid-Ariel in a bikini top-cake ever.

Although her brother said he wouldn’t eat any piece that was even remotely close to Ariel because he was absolutely positive that it would have germs all over it despite our assurances that we had washed her. Brothers!

Ariel cake

You know, if I had decorated the cake for her 7th birthday, years from now we would probably not even remember it. And if we did it would just be one in a long line of carefully planned and executed creations done by her mother.

But, this cake?

Well, this cake will never be forgotten.

Not only because it was just truly awesome in it’s own right. I mean, did you see those turrets?

But, because there was a very happy girl grinning from ear to ear with pride as those candles on her cake were lit and it was paraded around the room for everyone to oooohhhh and aaaaahhhh over.

birthday girl blowing out candles

And because her mommy knew that she had made the exact right choice at that pivotal moment in time.

Even if it means running the risk of having more cakes in the future featuring dolls in bikini tops! 😉

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  1. LeAnne says

    August 1, 2014 at 3:42 AM

    You’re a good momma! And you’re right–she’ll remember not only the cake, but that you let her decorate it as well. But of course, you’ve set a precedent….she’ll want to decorate ALL her cakes now, and well, that might not be such a bad thing! OR she’ll decide to let you do it after all! Beautiful memories!

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  2. Dee says

    August 1, 2014 at 4:39 AM

    I love this post! I have see my own daughter try to create Pinterest-perfect themed parties for my grandchildren and thought how glad I am that my own two daughters were raised before the internet and social media. You are correct! It will be the most perfect and memorable birthday for all of you.:)

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  3. Thistle says

    August 1, 2014 at 6:53 AM

    What a wonderful, wonderful reminder. And the Ariel was the perfect addition to an already perfect cake. 🙂

    Happy day friend!
    karianne

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  4. Jessica Griffin says

    August 1, 2014 at 8:44 AM

    This is lovely and as a mom, this cake is most definitely magazine worthy because your little girl decorated it!
    My favorite cake with my kids remains the one with all the Sesame Street characters smushed on top of the cake. Big Bird was lookin a little odd with frosting up to his feathers.

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    • At The Picket Fence says

      August 1, 2014 at 8:46 AM

      LOL! I can totally picture Big Bird! 😉 Thanks so much Jessica!

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  5. Tanya says

    August 1, 2014 at 11:29 AM

    Girls are quick to learn from their moms. Whatever I am today is because of the inspiration I drew from my mom.

    Your little one here, is carefully following her mom and I am sure she’s only gonna get better. Kids her age, can hardly keep themselves from licking the cake from every possible corner and here she is decorating one for herself. You’ve sure got a smart helper!

    Happy Birthday to her 🙂

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  6. Julia G. says

    August 1, 2014 at 12:02 PM

    You are the best mom ever! And your daughter is so blessed to have you! I love the cake 🙂

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  7. Kathy @ Creative Home Expressions says

    August 1, 2014 at 2:01 PM

    Good Mom decision, Vanessa! : ) It’s worth taking a second or two to think about our replies before we say them out loud.

    P.S. Yes, I try to go that extra day without shaving, too!

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    • At The Picket Fence says

      August 1, 2014 at 8:22 PM

      Thanks Kathy! 🙂

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  8. Becca says

    August 1, 2014 at 2:46 PM

    Aw, you’re such a good Mommy, Vanessa … embracing your beautiful daughter’s undoubted talent and creativity (that she clearly gets from you)! Please tell her that I said that is the most fantabulous Ariel cake EVER!

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    • At The Picket Fence says

      August 1, 2014 at 8:21 PM

      Thanks so much friend!!! 🙂 Love ya!

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  9. Marty Walden says

    August 1, 2014 at 3:19 PM

    You hit a home run my friend! You are right in every way, and your daughter will remember it always. My kids remember the silliest things like cleaning the kitchen floor with sponges strapped to the bottom of their feet (it was really me who cleaned but they slipped and slid to their hearts content). As I kept my nieces and nephew (ages 3 to 9) today I remember the chaos of 5 kids and I missed so many parts of it! This story will be a reminder for all of us to embrace today!

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    • At The Picket Fence says

      August 1, 2014 at 8:21 PM

      Thank you so much sweet friend! And what an awesome mom you are strapping sponges to their feet. Love it!!

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  10. Marty@A Stroll Thru Life says

    August 1, 2014 at 3:29 PM

    Oh what a special cake for a special little lady. Happy Birthday to her.

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    • At The Picket Fence says

      August 1, 2014 at 8:20 PM

      Thanks Marty! 🙂

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  11. chelsea says

    August 1, 2014 at 4:25 PM

    Such a precious memory!

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  12. martina says

    August 1, 2014 at 4:48 PM

    Your a super mom Vanessa…your little cutie’s cake looks AWESOME!! Hope she had a FANTABULOUS Birthday!!

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    • At The Picket Fence says

      August 1, 2014 at 8:20 PM

      Thanks so much Martina! 🙂

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  13. Yvonne @ StoneGable says

    August 2, 2014 at 6:50 AM

    Oh my, what a precious story Vanessa! I know exactly that tug and pull of those decisions… and the overwhelming thankfulness that you make the right one! The cake is priceless! God bless your precious birthday girl/best cake decorator in the world/Ariel lover! Hugs all ’round!

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  14. Sara Teich says

    August 2, 2014 at 2:22 PM

    What a quickly understanding decision! She’s a lucky little girl – AND a very beautiful one! Hope her birthday was just perfect! Kudos…

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  15. Claire @ A Little Claireification says

    August 3, 2014 at 8:14 AM

    Aw, she did a great job and so did YOU, Mama! xo

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