This is my rally cry friends!
I’m never.going.back to stressful, time-consuming seasonal decorating. When I think back on the years where I would feel all of the pressure to come up with something fresh and creative and more likely to get pinned a bajillion times, I’m seriously embarrassed. Truly. Because it was such a waste.
A waste of my time, my energy, my resources.
I would actually stress out about it. Really stress. How ridiculous is that?
But, something clicked with me a couple of years ago.
I was just done. I needed to simplify. I needed to not spend an obscene amount of time looking at fireplace mantels on Pinterest and trying to figure out how to make mine look amazing.
I needed to put it all in the proper place in my heart and my mind. Which meant, it had to go waaaaayyyy down on the priority list. So far down it almost wasn’t on it.
Yes, I want to have a home that I enjoy. Yes, I love pretty things. Yes, I realize I’m a blogger who shares a lot of decorating so I kinda sorta have to care about it a little bit. 😉
But, I don’t have to care about it so much that I feel almost paralyzed each year when the holidays roll around and I’m standing in the attic wondering if I need to just donate everything and start over.
And, you guys, something really amazing happened when I finally released it all. When I determined to not give into the pressure and panic I would feel when I would scroll through my Instagram feed.
When I just laid it all down and said…enough.
There was this incredible irony in it.
Because, the less time I took to decorate my home for each season, the more I found myself loving the results.
In fact, it started looking like how I had really always wanted it to look way deep down in my heart.
I think that all along I had just been getting in my own way.
It’s funny how much my approach to decorating my home tends to reflect what is happening in my heart.
In those early years of blogging, I felt almost schizophrenic when it came to decorating. I was easily influenced by what I saw in other homes and what I thought mine was ‘supposed’ to look like. I didn’t feel confident.
And this same lack of confidence overflowed into other areas of my life as well.
It’s really taken a lot of time and prayer for me to finally be at a place where even though I still struggle with insecurities and I still have doubts from time to time, I’m becoming increasingly more confident in who God created me to be.
And, just like my home, I’m finding that as I relax into myself, letting go of the comparisons and the pressure, the more I’m actually doing what I really wanted to do all along.
To write books that encourage.
To get real about what it’s like to raise teenagers.
To share with you the things I’m wrestling with.
To provide ideas for your home and inspiration for your heart.
And, you guys, I’m never going back!
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23 Comments on "Never Going Back"
Good for you! You should be proud of yourself. Your blog is very enjoyable just the way it is. It’s actually nice to find a blog where the blogger isn’t constantly changing the decor every time they blog. That certainly isn’t very real for the majority of us.
This is exactly what I’m going through! I need to rid myself of ALL the seasonal decor and start fresh AND simple. I feel so overwhelmed with the holidays coming up and all the bins of decor. Enough! I’m going simple and will enjoy the journey. Great blog and perfect timing for this article! Thank you!
Good for you! I’ve been struggling with the same thing and I haven’t even started yet. Because what I envision, I don’t see out there in “”decor world””! Not yet anyway. Or what I envision is so old fashioned, it just slithered away somewhere. Anyway, my daughter and I have discussing making our house a home. We’ll get there with our own vision using the beautiful pics we see in design blogs as inspiration.
Great post – I think we all feel that way from time to time. It can be hard because we are all doing this because we love to decorate and we love to look at other people’s decor. Yet, getting all caught up in the stress of it all is probably not what we planned. We have to remember that we inspire others by being ourselves! I always love stopping by to see what you are up to. Have a great day!
Shelley
One thing is that when you put it all out, you have to eventually take it all down. Then you wonder” Is this too much? Is it over-kill?” This year I did very little because of home remodeling and a new grand child and the world did not stop turning and I do not have that much to put back up before Christmas
Beautifully said!
Oh I can not imagine keeping things in there place or even putting them back … LOL!!!! I put everything up and away and within a day everything is piled here and there .. With taking care of my husband who is ill and bedridden and my 81 yr old mother lives with us … but God bless all will be alright
Refreshing!
Thanks for sharing from your heart…as always.
It looks gorgeous and inviting where you are!
xo
All my heart,
Deborah
And this is why I join you at the fence every morning, God bless you!
And I love having you here Valerie!! I’m so grateful for the wonderful people in this community! 🙂
Blessings to you,
Vanessa
Vanessa, your home looks lovely! Great post, and very encouraging…
Now, I have to ask. I see The Harvester book in your one pic! Are you a Gene Stratton-Porter fan, or did you just purchase for the decor? 🙂
I love that you noticed that Julie!! I have many Gene Stratton-Porter books that have been handed down to me and she is one of my favorite authors of all time. 🙂
*squeals with delight* I LOVE her… she’s my all-time fave author! I have MOST of her books.. some doubles to give to my adult children. Always love to hear that someone ‘loves’ her as much as I do!
On another note… I’m not getting notification of replies to my email… even though I ‘m checking it. Just thought you would like to know.
Thank you so much Vanessa…when I first started reading blogs I felt compelled to do things in my home to look like others. Honestly I couldn’t keep up I was overwhelmed. I found my nitch finally and can enjoy what others do and get ideas from time to time. I am thankful for your new freedom and enjoy your lovely home and ideas.
Beautiful!
Oh Mary-Ann thank you so much for this incredibly kind and encouraging comment! I agree with you that the ‘stuff’ can easily become a burden and actually take away from our enjoyment of the seasons. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one who is feeling this way. Thank you too for your sweet words about our book! It blesses me so much to know that you are enjoying it. If you have time, would you consider leaving a review of it on Amazon? Thank you again for being apart of our At the Picket Fence community! xoxo
I love that you always speak from the heart!!
Dorothy I can’t tell you how much it means to me that, first of all, our blog came to your mind when you were looking for personal inspiration, and that this post resonated with you so much. Thank you for your kind words and for being apart of our community!
Keeping it simple, clean is joy.