When all is right with the world.
When the flowers are blooming and the sun is shining and all of your dreams have come true, Mother’s Day is a glorious occasion to celebrate!
But, what if it isn’t? What if Mother’s Day is a bit hard?
Or what if it’s really hard?
Mother’s Day is one of those ‘holiday’s that can stir up mixed feelings for so many people. It can be filled with cherished memories and fulfilled dreams.
Or, it can be a day filled with reminders of what has been lost and what might never be.
And yet…and yet…
where there is sorrow and loss and heartache,
there is always the opportunity for grace and healing and redemption.
And when Blue Nile asked if we would partner with them on a very special Mother’s Day giveaway, we knew that we wanted to celebrate ALL sides of motherhood. The beautiful, all is right with the world, dreams come true side.
And the side that is so often not discussed but so really needs to be. The harder side.
Today, we’re welcoming to At the Picket Fence two very special mothers. They may have very different stories but they have one thing in common. They have experienced BOTH sides of motherhood and want their experiences to be a blessing and encouragement to others.
And we asked them to share what Mother’s Day means to them.
Mother’s Day is a bittersweet day for me. This year it also happens to be my 34th birthday. We have a beautiful three year old son named Cooper. I could not be more grateful for his sweet spirit. I am more than honored to be his mommy. Any mom knows that our children are the ones that teach us much more than we could ever begin to teach them. He is a true gift. My husband and I also have three babies that are in heaven that we have lost through miscarriage. We lost our first angel baby in December 2012 and two more have gone to be with Jesus since Mother’s Day of last year. I ache for them, especially so on Mother’s Day. I wish so badly I could hold and rock them and sing to them, so much so that sometimes the pain takes my breath away. The beautiful lesson I am learning is that it is ok to be so unbelievably GRATEFUL for what you have and at the same time so deeply GRIEVING what you have lost. I think as mom’s, and just as people in general, we sometimes have a hard time with this. On one hand we are truly SO grateful for what we do have, and at the same time our hearts ache for what we have lost. We compare to situations that are worse than ours and sometimes as a result minimize the pain we are actually in. What I want to say to any mom who has lost a child in any way, and to those who maybe can’t have a child but desperately wish you could, be honest with someone you trust this Mother’s Day. Be honest about the grief. And at the same time let’s rejoice in our blessings. And above all else, know you are not alone.
Growing up, Mother’s Day meant mimosas, flowers and brunch. My mom loved celebrations and she especially loved Mother’s Day. It was always a joyful day. A day filled with gratitude and recognition for all she did for our family. That all changed when I was 27 and my mom died of pancreatic cancer a week before Mother’s Day. Her memorial was held the day after Mother’s Day that year. I was pregnant with my daughter at the time and I was also motherless. In years to come, Mother’s Day would become a day I would anticipate with dread. And, as my alcoholism progressed, it would become one more excuse for me to numb my pain and feelings. Despite having two beautiful children and a husband who wanted to celebrate me, I couldn’t see past my own despair. Instead of focusing on what I did have, I chose to focus on what I didn’t have – my mom.
Today, my life looks much different. In sobriety, I have found joy and contentment in the now. I still miss my mom terribly, but I choose to celebrate all that I have instead of focusing on what I don’t. Mother’s Day is now a day for me to celebrate the joys and blessings of motherhood and also a time for me to honor my mom. And, because my mom’s happiest place was in her garden, I always set aside some special time to plant flowers and thank her for giving me such a beautiful life.
To read more about my sober life, please visit my blog at Life Corked
The many sides of motherhood. Maybe you can relate to some of what Lauren and Chenoa shared. Or perhaps your story is vastly different. But we all have a story, right?
What does Mother’s Day mean to you? Maybe it’s all been flowers and sunshine and dreams come true. But, we would venture to guess that even in the midst of the flowers and the sunshine there have been moments that are hard. Maybe even really hard.
And, whether your Mother’s Day ‘cup’ is filled to overflowing with joy and laughter or whether it’s filled to overflowing with sorrow and tears, we are all linked together in this motherhood bond one way or another.
Maybe that’s why we were so drawn to the Infinity Love Knot Pendant.
There are links that join our lives together. At the risk of sounding corny (we’ll always take that risk!) you might even call them ‘love links’. Whether it’s mother to child or husband to wife or sister to brother or friend to friend.
And knowing that we are linked together on this journey of life is the most beautiful mother’s day gift of all!
Blue Nile wants to help you celebrate Mother’s Day and we’re thrilled to be giving away a $100 Credit to their online store. They even have an entire section of $100 and under gifts with so many amazing options!
Don’t forget to enter their Pin to Win contest where one lucky winner will receive this stunning Blue Nile Signature Hearts and Arrow Cushion Cut Pendant.